What if it looked better on her?

I’m going to take a hunch that maybe you’ve wanted to wear something, but some thoughts like, “It looked better on her,” enter into your brain. I mean when we order online–which is becoming a predominant way of shopping, hello no dressing rooms!–the item is usually featured on a model. If we were to go to the dressing rooms say with a friend, we would then by chance see an item on a girlfriend. No matter how it happens, we often compare ourselves to others. This post isn’t about jealousies–since none of us have time for that. Rather this post is about the comparisons we make in relations to others and how to work through them. Comparing ourselves to others is a real, very genuine action that often takes place when we go to get dressed. If I am honest, I do it too despite my absolute love for getting dressed.

For example, take this bodycon dress on me. I was at a clothing swap, with much thinner women than myself, therefore I was going for stretchy items–like this stretch dress. When I tried it on, nothing, I mean NOTHING was hidden! This dress bares all! Then, another gal, who is utterly gorgeous and is indeed a beautiful, 6 ft tall model, with stunning blue eyes and a statuesque presence, tried this dress on. Well, obviously it looked amazing on her! Sabrina, who is as beautiful inside as she is out, didn’t want the dress though, and since I’m a lover of anything fringe, I ended up going home with it.

But, how do I wear a bodycon dress after seeing it literally hanging off Sabrina, looking so great and just as the dress should be? I’ll tell you what I do.

Armour, Adjust, Accessorize, and Attitude

With the proper armour I was able to wear this dress. I also made some adjustments to the way I wore it, but most importantly my attitude is essential at carrying off anything that verges on making me feel insecure!

Armour

The fringe on this dress is created by tied knots–knots that see through to the skin. In fact the ladies during the clothing exchange mentioned wearing this dress without panties or at the very least barely there underwear. For me however, since the dress is exceptionally tight, I paired a nice and tight, slimming, black slip underneath. Knowing that my skin was somewhat smoothed down plus not being able to see through to my skin was reassuring; it made it possible for me to put this fringe dress on!

Adjust

There are a couple of adjustments I made to this dress. First, normally, it should be worn with the fringe running straight down the side hitting mid shin. Instead I twisted the body of the dress so that the fringe went from one side, across my torso, and over to the other side. This crossover action gives the line of the dress a slimming look at the waist. Second, I ruched the waist a bit so that is was bunched up which in turn shortened the dress. Because the dress is made of a stretchy, cotton material, it was easy to manipulate the way this dress hangs.

Accessorize

I would not wear this dress with out a couple of items that detract from its bodycon state. One, I quickly grabbed for my denim cut-of vest. Two, I wore my over-the-knee boots so as to not have any skin show. Finally, to draw attention up toward my face, I stacked on some rhinestone necklaces. Lastly, for a pop of color, I added one of my colorful embroidered clutches from India. It’s not that I want to take away from the fabulous fringe of this dress, but I did want to distract from it’s clinging ways, and with some purposely placed accessories this is possible.

Attitude

Our attitude can make or break us. I will always believe that we need to wear our confidence. It can be tough–especially if we tend to compare ourselves to others. Rather, even if it is hard, we need to embrace the assets we do have and make the best of them. I am curvy! Well, embrace a bodycon! But first, I’ve made some little tweaks and enhancements so to speak that make me feel good in this dress. Then, when I go to wear it, my attitude is better when I like how I wear it. When I like how I wear it, I’m liking me; in turn I will have an attitude of confidence.

Interested in a Black Fringed Dress?

Here are some very cute black dresses that incorporate a little fringe–luckily I didn’t choose only bodycon dresses!

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